Receiving a financial windfall or signing on a new client to your business can trigger so much excitement, it’s thrilling, but by the end of the month, the excitement can turn to disappointment, as the money seems to have pretty much disappeared into thin air.  Leaving you feeling robbed of the opportunity to enjoy “having more money” and instead, feeling as if it went out as soon as it came in.

This can trigger so many old emotional patterns of guilt, shame, not feeling good enough, feeling unworthy or undeserving.  Now, it really doesn’t matter how much you “needed” that money, unless you know what to do when the money does come in, these unconscious thoughts be part of a pattern causing money to continue to slip through your fingers, firmly putting you back to square one.

And as frustrating as it feels, being back to square one, it can be easy to believe that you actually don’t have any control, but in fact, it’s quite the opposite.  Money does not control you.  You are not a puppet at the hands of money, despite it feeling like you may have been at times.

You are in the driving seat, not money, and are in more control of it than you may think or give yourself credit for.  The foundation of my coaching work is mindset, working on thoughts and beliefs.  When it comes to money mindset, there are few tricks that will set you well on your way so you can stay in control and get to keep more of the money you have flowing in.

Use these 3 simple steps to stay in control and keep more money:

  1.  Look at the Money Leaks

You may already be aware of your money leak pattern, it that’s the case, that’s great as it means you are already ahead of the game.

Let’s take a moment to check in and see if money leak patterns like these look familiar?

You swing from overworking to exhaustion, borderline burn out, creating swinging gaps in your income.

You “give” money away, overpaying or picking up the bills, to make up for feeling guilty or fearing being judged as a bit “tight” if you don’t.

You keep a secret stash of money because you are concerned that others will “take” money from you or you don’t want to stand out and be seen as having more money than others.

You avoid discussing money to avoid conflict and thereby any feelings you think may come up if you did.

Everyone has their own money leak pattern, so don’t worry, if yours aren’t listed above.  Some patterns are more obvious than others.  Now, whether your money leak pattern is one of the above or a different one, the more honest you are with yourself, the faster you’ll feel empowered to bite the bullet and take control, getting into aligned financial action.

The sense of relief you feel once you get started will be more than worth it, completely outweighing any sense of dread you think you may have at the moment.

  1. Give Yourself Permission to Have More

As a business coach, some clients put themselves in a position where they ask me to “give” them permission to make and keep more money. Very often, below the surface there is a desire to feel safe, loved and accepted by someone they trust, so they can feel free to create greater income.

Why is this?  Every client has someone in their life they have concerns about upsetting, making angry, disappointing, hurting or even disempowering in some way.

Most women need to consciously give themselves permission that it’s safe to make more money, to keep more money, to let themselves shine, to feel empowered, to make more than others around them, to make more than their spouse/partner.  The list goes on and on.

Acknowledging where you may have a concern about being successful and wealthy and explicitly giving yourself permission that it’s safe to make and keep more money is a simple yet profoundly impactful action you can take that instantly gives you the control you’re seeking.

Your desire to be financially successful doesn’t disempower anyone around you. Will a few people in your life feel threatened as you start to have more money? Maybe, but that’s their choice, that’s their emotional response, not yours.  Remember that you playing small does not help anyone else feel big.

So, give yourself permission to shine, now.

  1. Let Money Stick To You

It’s time to get sticky!  A powerful coaching exercise I do with my clients when they receive a financial windfall of any size is to let the money just sit in their bank account for a minimum of 2 weeks.

Having that money just sitting there will shine a light on where you are uncomfortable and where you may want to get rid of it fast as a way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings.

During these two weeks you could experience, and process through, feelings of guilt, success shame, having more than others, and so it goes on. Gifting yourself that time allows you to get to the other side of those feelings and make empowered choices that support you in continuing to grow your business, your reach and influence.

Keeping more money is an empowering action that will increase your confidence and starting these 3 powerful actions are a great kick-starter to getting to know your worth.  Here’s to your success!

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